Wisdom From A House Plant | Teaching Skills About Boundaries
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Three types of boundaries worksheet a great tool for a conversation starter.
Rigid or Closed : The person’s boundary is too closed.
~Wants control.
~Believes their ideas and techniques are superior.
~Believes they are the authority at all times. Forces their beliefs onto others. Often shames people for questioning their authority.
~Everything is either black and white.
~Loves to say no
Diffuse or Weak: The person’s boundary is too open.
~Feels they have nothing to contribute. Wants others to be in control.
~Believes their ideas and techniques are generally inferior.
~Never questions the other person’s authority.
~Loves to say yes
Flexible or Healthy: The person’s boundary is neither too closed nor too open.
~Shares contribution and control.
~Believes their ideas and techniques have the potential to be helpful and effective, as do other people’s ideas and techniques.
~Seeks out guidance from trustworthy individuals who have more knowledge and experience. Believes that people with less knowledge and experience also have wisdom to share.
~Willing to say “yes” even when they’re afraid, but also willing to say “no” when they sense that their boundaries are being violated.
A flexible boundary is like a cell membrane: it gives shape and structure to the cell and protects it from its surroundings while also selectively allowing substances to enter the cell that will allow it to survive. Likewise, our boundary can give shape and structure to our identity, protect us from things that might harm us, and allow things to pass through that can feed and nurture us.
Rigid or Closed : The person’s boundary is too closed.
~Wants control.
~Believes their ideas and techniques are superior.
~Believes they are the authority at all times. Forces their beliefs onto others. Often shames people for questioning their authority.
~Everything is either black and white.
~Loves to say no
Diffuse or Weak: The person’s boundary is too open.
~Feels they have nothing to contribute. Wants others to be in control.
~Believes their ideas and techniques are generally inferior.
~Never questions the other person’s authority.
~Loves to say yes
Flexible or Healthy: The person’s boundary is neither too closed nor too open.
~Shares contribution and control.
~Believes their ideas and techniques have the potential to be helpful and effective, as do other people’s ideas and techniques.
~Seeks out guidance from trustworthy individuals who have more knowledge and experience. Believes that people with less knowledge and experience also have wisdom to share.
~Willing to say “yes” even when they’re afraid, but also willing to say “no” when they sense that their boundaries are being violated.
A flexible boundary is like a cell membrane: it gives shape and structure to the cell and protects it from its surroundings while also selectively allowing substances to enter the cell that will allow it to survive. Likewise, our boundary can give shape and structure to our identity, protect us from things that might harm us, and allow things to pass through that can feed and nurture us.